What does it mean to be “non-judgmental”?
BALONEY!
Last week I talked about how I set my “New Year’s Resolutions” in the beginning of spring instead of on January 1st, because that’s when my intuition tells me my new year begins.
The only reason I can recognize that inner clock, however, is because of 2 things:
- I have practiced how to tune into my inner wisdom that is constantly communicating with me.
- I have no judgments about what that wisdom tells me.
Now, you might be thinking, “Yeah, why would you judge when you start your new year’s goals/resolutions/intentions?”
It’s easy to be non-judgmental when we don’t think this feeling/belief/decision means anything about us.
When it comes to OTHER body wisdom we receive, however, it’s a lot harder to accept it without judgment.
“My body is telling me to eat pizza everyday.”
“My body is saying it absolutely never wants to workout.”
“My body is uncomfortable with the size/shape/weight I am right now.”
Now those?! Those are A LOT harder to be neutral and non-judgmental about!
Because we DO tend to think alllll of those things mean something about us as a person. Either:
- That our body wisdom is WRONG or we are somehow misinterpreting what our body is telling us.
- That message is RIGHT and we are somehow broken, because our body should never be telling us these things.
When you judge the messages your body gives you, you are blocking yourself from accessing the wisdom in it, because you have a conflict of interest:
It– wants to tell you something.
Vs.
You– don’t want to hear it.
What that looks like?
Body: “I want pizza! So much pizza! Every day, please!!!”
You: *fingers in ears* “LA, LA, LA, I CAN’T HEAR YOU!”
That’s why having a coach on your side can help you see all the ways:
You’ve been taught to block & fight your body wisdom,
How to interpret those messages,
What to do to access the wisdom, &
How to put it into practice.
For instance:
“My body is telling me to eat pizza everyday.”
With Intuitive Eating, we would use a few tools to help you unpack all the wisdom in just this one little thought:
- It highlights where you still have diet culture thoughts running the show; even if you don’t consider yourself “on a diet” you are operating as if you are on one.
- It points out where the food police are patrolling, telling you that eating pizza every day would be bad.
- We would investigate what is so satisfying about pizza to you, why you NEED to satisfy yourself with food, and some other ways to do that with various foods–INCLUDING PIZZA.
- We practice ways to make peace with pizza, so you don’t get stuck in a restrict/binge cycle of avoiding pizza and “giving in” and going overboard.
- We would also experiment with honoring your hunger & feeling your fullness so that you can see what it would actually be like if you allowed yourself to eat pizza every day/whenever you wanted. Because when you let yourself eat pizza as often as you want WITHOUT all the emotional drama of it meaning something about you… it does get pretty old pretty quick, and your body WILL tell you it wants something else to eat. (I know from firsthand experience, as well as from my clients.)
Your body and intuition have so much wisdom ready for you to use for your best interest. But as long as you are committed to misinterpreting it because of what Diet & Toxic Fitness Culture has taught you about ignoring & judging it, you’ll never access the lesson it’s trying to teach you.
| What my clients think: |
| “Just recently I found myself speaking negatively to myself about how “little” I had been working out. I paused and I said to myself, “You are in a season of physical rest as you navigate the holidays. I trust that when things calm down, you will have the energy to move a little more. This is just a season of less physical movement, and it too will pass.”Hearing myself pause [my brain] and speak with an understanding that this is truly a phase of life…and then to hear myself say “I trust myself and my timing” wow. I almost cried with joy when that happened. I immediately shared the thoughts with my husband and we celebrated this kind win.”–Rhea |
| Ready to tune into your body wisdom with non-judgment and be kinder to yourself?!Let’s chat about what you want to get started on! Reply to this email & we’ll figure it out together! |
| TTYL, Deanna |
